Signs you have a toxic mother-in-law

A mother of one’s spouse is referred to as a toxic mother-in-law if she exhibits unfavourable behaviour toward her daughter or son-in-law. This can involve actions like interfering in their relationship and manipulating, criticising, and undermining them. 

A toxic mother-in-law may also exhibit excessive levels of possessiveness, control, or jealousy toward her child’s spouse.

This can cause significant stress and conflict in the relationship between the couple and the mother-in-law, and can even lead to the breakdown of the relationship. 

These are some of the signs that your mother-in-law is toxic:

Surpasses whatever you say

She suddenly develops a condition that is worse when you are sick or feeling under the weather.

Disregards your emotions

She will always find a reason to be impolite, regardless of the situation or who is around. That could include making fun of the fact that you got married in a civil ceremony or the theme you decided upon.

Makes you feel inferior

She likes to tell you how much more experience she has as a partner and how she can provide the greatest guidance on how to handle any scenario. 

Criticises everything

She only gives negative feedback about how you decorate the house or how messy it is and she won’t eat more than one or two bites of what you cook.

Makes things challenging 

She asks you to complete activities that are impossible when everyone is there since she knows you’ll fail and that your confidence will be damaged.

Ignores boundaries

She shows up unannounced, does not respect privacy, or does not respect your (couple) decisions in regards to your own family.

Holds grudges

She cannot let go of past conflicts or disagreements and continues to hold resentment towards you.

Two-faced

She says one thing to you and then acts or says something different to another person. If she tells you how nice you look in something only to tell your partner the outfit is hideous, that’s not only being two-faced, but it’s toxic and rude.

So, if you find the above relatable, then you got to do something about it because it can be difficult to coexist with a toxic mother-in-law who doesn’t play fairly or be nice, and doesn’t want to try. The most you can do is establish clear limits, try not to make things worse, and, when necessary, defend your own interests as well as those of your partner.

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